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The Secrets of Eye Contact – Revealed

by | May 5, 2013 | Communication, Dating, Dating for singles, Image consulting, In the Workplace

Eye contact is the most powerful connection you can have with another human being is when your eyes meet. It may seem scary to allow yourself to be vulnerable, but if you practice eye contact techniques, your love connections will explode.

Eye contact tips:
Here’s an eye gazing exercise to show you how it’s done. Practice with a trusted friend first to get the hang of it

  • Begin by looking at your friend’s right or left eye only.
  • Then move your gaze to his other eye and do the same.
  • When that feels comfortable, gaze into both his eyes with both of yours.
  • The entire exercise should take two to three minute’s total.


After you’ve practiced on a friend, begin connecting with people you encounter in day-to-day interactions, such as servers, bank tellers, and clerks in grocery checkout lines. Make eye contact, and then maintain the connection while making light conversation. Make this a part of your everyday ritual, and you’ll get more comfortable with eye contact, and be ready when the time is right for the real romantic deal. Don’t get eye gazing confused with stalker eyes; it’s not a frozen stare; it’s a warm, sincere, and inviting gaze. With good eye contact you’re on your way to real authentic, face-to-face connections, some- thing that cyber connections just can’t accomplish.

Historically, women are better at holding eye contact than men; but with practice, men can also master eye gazing. Men who make a higher level of eye contact are perceived as:

  • More powerful
  • Attentive
  • Likable and more attractive
  • Warm and personable
  • Competent and confident
  • Trustworthy, sincere, and honest
  • Professionally and emotionally stable


Men who make less eye contact are perceived to be:

  • Distrustful
  • Suspicious
  • Lacking confidence in what they’re saying
  • Impersonal
  • Uninterested
  • Inattentive

About Body Language Expert Susan Constantine
Susan is a prime-time contributor as seen on CNN, HLN, ABC, CBS, MSNBC, HLN, and TruTV. She has been featured numerous times in national trade journals, magazines, newspapers, television, and film documentaries in the U.S. and Japan, and has a role in the national film “Be Natural,” produced by Robert Redford and narrated by Jodi Foster, coming out in late 2013.